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Friday Let’s Talk With Jessica – Borrowing Books

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It’s really hard to know what to talk about from week to week. I found some suggestions from Asti at Oh! The Books. It’s been super helpful so thank you so much Asti! For compiling that list!

Last week I talked about Lending books. So it’s only fair if I talk about borrowing books.

Personally I am learning to loathe borrowing books. I end up with other people’s books that I did not really want. Then they sit my house collecting dust. In the meanwhile my heart collects overwashing guilt of possessing someone’s precious book, but not so much that I would return it.

Why does this happen?

Let’s go back to why you have the book in the first place. I’ve made it clear I don’t like borrowing books, how do I end up with them anyway. Too many times has someone come to me “Oh, You have to read this book!” Then I go okay I will have to get that eventually. No! They say as they thrust the book in your hand. You gulp with fear that they may have just signed that books life over to you and they didn’t know it. You are too polite to say no.

Then after that some people hound you about on that book I let you borrow… then there is more guilt because of course you have not read that book! Your TBR is endless you have many review’s due, dishes to tend to, the list goes on and on! They ask you day in day out. You feel your worth withering inside of you… Okay maybe it’s not that bad… but still the guilt!

And so it goes. Borrowing books is a vicious opportunity for a guilt cycle. Not to mention the little side note of what is on a borrowed book. Did you know they a study on a copy of 50 shades of Grey from a library and they found some pretty horrific stuff! Gross. Yes, that was from a library, but I think I’ve made my point. Which is funny because I like to think that same horrific stuff disappears when you buy used books… I digress.

Borrowing books can be super helpful when you need to read the book for some reason and can’t or don’t want to own it. Borrowing books has it’s place, but it’s something I do minimally.

How do you feel about borrowing books?

~Jessica

 

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  • Silvara July 22, 2015, 11:18 am

    I hardly ever borrow books from friends. I’m usually the one who is borrowed FROM. *laughs* Mostly that’s because I already own the books my friends say I have to read, or they buy me copies for birthdays/holidays. Or ARC swaps with my blog-friends.

    But I’m fairly picky about who I lend books to. I’ve had books returned horribly damaged (or not returned at all!) and that bugs me a lot. So usually if I think someone has to read a book, I buy them their own copy. That way I don’t have to worry about what the book will end up looking like, and they don’t have to worry about getting it back to me.
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    • Jessica July 22, 2015, 6:16 pm

      Sounds like we are similar in the regard… Thanks for stopping by!

  • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction August 3, 2015, 3:54 pm

    I don’t borrow books in general for the same reasons you list – I then feel pressured to read them and I don’t want to deal with the guilt!
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    • Jessica August 3, 2015, 7:08 pm

      I KNOW! I have a book right now that someone thrust upon me that I need to return… Because “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” Especially if you are a book-blogger. Thanks for stopping by!

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