Sometime this past fall I was talking to one of my girlfriends on the phone and she was dealing with a new relationship. She mentioned a conundrum she was dealing with. It’s one that I remember dealing with as well when I was first married. Her idea of love she had learned from media and what she was experiencing in reality where crashing epiclly. The ideals she had built from fiction whether books or movies were not working with the love she needed to get through that current relationship.
I came to this same conclusion when I was first married. My relationship with my husband was my first serious relationship. I had all sorts of ideas that came from Dirty Dancing, Sixteen Candles, Notting Hill. My favorite all time quote is when Julia Roberts stands before Hugh Grant saying “I’m just a girl standing in front of boy asking him to love her…” Of course Dirty Dancing… “Nobody leaves baby in a corner.” Makes me all squishy inside just thinking about it! I digress. I feel as a woman and having heard this from other women sometimes when it comes to love- fact and fiction become a blurry line.
Am I saying no more chic-lits or chic flicks… Never!!! I think fiction helps us be more creative in our realities and helps us stretch the boundaries on the mundane. The problem is when we let the fiction define our reality… It happens… Just when it’s brought to your awareness what is real, be faithful to that. I’ll be there for you when you reach that depressive moment that every fairytale may have skewed your reality just a bit. You’ll find your way back I did. I still enjoy chic everything. I’m even a Chic-Lit Author!